4 Ways to enhance your listening skills

It’s easy to be a good listener, right? All you have to do is listen.

Well for the most part yes, you listen. However, what if the person speaking requires more than just a listening ear? What if they require some input? A bit of validation? Listening to someone, a friend, a co-worker, a family member, takes more than just being able to sit there and listen.

So, what are the best components of a good listener?

Firstly, space.

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You must give the other person the space to talk. Don’t interrupt them, if you feel as though you have a point to add, wait until they have finished the point that they are making.

Secondly, be open. [3]

Show that you are actively listening. Allow your body to do your talking, nod your head, keep eye contact, stand or sit in a open position that allows connection and shows that you are willing to be there and present in the moment.

Thirdly, repeat. [4]

Give the speaker their own words back. If they say, “I feel hurt by what happened,” give this back to them therefore showing that you are taking on board when they are saying and how they are feeling. “You feel hurt.” This also shows that you will validate how they are feeling without any form of judgement therefore creating a safe environment for the speaker to be in.

And my fourth and final point is, to be congruent. [5].